The Woodstock String Quartet's View On LOVE
Music is just like Love; it is full of expression, of hope & sorrow, pleasure
& pain, beauty & rawness, forceful but forgiving, discerning but not judging,
challenging but not critical, acting but not reacting; most of all, it is
expression of feelings, emotions, passion & sensitivity.
Like Music, Love is thought provoking, and conclusive, and tho' honest &
sometimes extremely passionate with conflicting ideas and motives, it is kind
in the end, because it resolves whatever conflict has developed into
resolution that ends the conflict, if not within the music, then after it has
stopped. If it was loud, when it ends, it is soft, because there is no sound
left, after. It can be followed by a softer piece, or interlude. And if it was
soft, then it is even more peaceful afterward, but can also bring forth an
idea that is challenging, and will be heard more readily, because softness
preceded it. If it ends on a sour note, there is usually some other piece that
can be played afterward, that can soothe our souls. If there was a Battle of
Ideas, then usually there is some compromise that can bring resolution to the
two in battle, as in a fugue, which ends when the ideas have unwound to their
fullest capacity, and there comes a finale chord to end it in unity.
Love is not much different than that. If there is a battle, of conflict, a
fugue - or feud - so to speak - it can be resolved by letting all the ideas
unravel, as a composer does in a fugue, until they have all been spilled out
onto the table, so that everybody involved knows the score... Once the ideas
have all been exposed, the musical discussion then develops the ideas into a
final conclusion, over time. Time is key here, because Rome wasn't built in a
day, nor can any two people with opposing ideas solve their issue in a split
second, without conversation. The composer develops each idea to it’s fullest,
and then brings them together in union. Love, if allowed to, can do the same
thing with conflicting ideas, or motives, by getting them out, one at a time,
until all the truth of each side is exposed, and then with conversation, and a
little compromise, by allowing the development of each idea, the two ideas can
eventually resolve into the end of the conflict, by a final chord, or in the
case of Love, by reaching a final Accord (Def: Accord: To cause to conform or
agree; bring into harmony.) No one can be forced to agree, but like the
composer, the two promoters of the two different opposing ideas, or different
motives, can develop them into accord by discussion, first presenting one
motive, and the pros & cons, and then the other, with it’s pros & cons, until
all the facets of each idea are clearly stated, thru conversation, and thru
the conflict's resolution, by coming to some mutual agreement, even if it is
to agree to disagree.
Two lovers should never go to sleep angry, because neither one will get any rest. Kiss and make up, got to bed, and the next morning, you can begin hashing it out all over again until you can agree on some final accord. Sometimes a third party, or a counselor, can help. But the thing that works the best, as the Famous Love-Song Hit Duo Ashford & Simpson once said on a TV Talk show, is:
When things aren't going the way either one or both of you want them to go, try treating each other the way that you did on the day you first fell in love, and were acting your best, showing the other person your best side, so that they would like you, and maybe even love you. You treated them the way you would want to be treated. And most likely, they did the same. Try it, and see if it doesn't work to bring you back closer together, like the way it was when you first fell in love, and got together on the very first date, or for the very first time. Just try it. It will work, because you will both be treating each other with the greatest respect & consideration, civility, and care, if not loving kindness, towards each other, because you want that other person to love you, and so you will each be on your best behavior. That is why you first loved each other, wasn't it? It is because you showed each other your best side, and gave each other the best that you could give; you were kind and most considerate to each other, and treated each other with the utmost respect, and smiled your best smile, gave each other your full attention. And that's why you fell in love. It’s never too late to Love each other. And it's never too late start Loving Each Other again, and to begin all over again.
Remember the Golden Rule: Treat each other the way that you want to be treated, and everything will work out, just fine.
- Rob T